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Shitty codependent relationships tend to be stable because they are based on an unspoken agreement that one person tolerates the other's bad behavior and they tolerate the others bad behavior, and neither wants to be left alone.
Initially it looks like a relationship based on compromise, because thats what people do, but in reality, each of them harbors feelings of resentment, and both parties become emotional hostages of each other insteadt (for me , by the way, it took more than one year to understand this). A healthy and happy relationship requires two healthy and happy individuals. The key word is personalities. That is, two people, each of whom retains his own individuality, his own interests and aspirations, and the activities that he does himself in his own time.